Relationship Therapy for Men · Anger

Anger in Relationships

For men who don't want their anger to keep hurting the people they care about. Individual sessions in Bangalore & online.

You're not a bad person. You're stuck in a pattern.

Most men who struggle with anger in their relationship don't want to be that way. You might love your partner deeply and still find yourself shouting, saying cruel things, or going cold, and then feeling ashamed afterwards.

I'm Aditya Kumar, a counselling psychologist, and anger is one of the main areas I work in. Together we figure out what sets you off, what the anger is protecting, and how to respond in a way you're proud of. This is part of my relationship work with men.

Does any of this sound like you?

Snapping over small things

A tone, a late reply, a dish left out, and suddenly you're far angrier than the moment deserves.

Saying things you regret

Words come out sharper than you mean them, and you spend the next day trying to undo the damage.

Going cold or silent

Not every anger is loud. Shutting down, walking out, or the silent treatment hurt a relationship too.

Feeling disrespected

A constant sense of not being heard, valued, or appreciated that turns into irritation and resentment.

The guilt cycle

Anger, then guilt and promises to change, then calm, until it builds up and happens again.

Your partner walks on eggshells

They avoid bringing things up, or have told you they're afraid of how you'll react.

What we work on

  • Early warning signs: noticing the build-up in your body before you blow up
  • In-the-moment skills: DBT and somatic tools to pause and cool down
  • Your triggers: CBT to catch the thoughts that turn a small thing into a big one
  • What's underneath: the hurt, fear, or shame that often hides behind anger
  • Repair: how to come back after a fight and rebuild trust

Why anger is often more than anger

Many men grow up learning that anger is the one emotion they're allowed to show. Sadness, fear, embarrassment or feeling unwanted get pushed down, and come out as irritation or rage instead.

Naming what's really there is often the turning point. The free Decode Your Emotions tool is a good place to start. If the anger is tied to a struggling marriage, see marriage counselling for husbands.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this anger management?
It includes anger management skills, but goes further. Alongside tools to calm down in the moment, we look at what triggers your anger and what sits underneath it, so the change lasts.
I'm not violent. Do I still need help?
If your anger is hurting your relationship, your peace of mind, or the way your partner feels around you, it's worth working on. Most men who come for anger work aren't violent; they're tired of the shouting, the regret, or the distance it creates.
Is anger a bad emotion?
No. Anger is a normal signal that something matters to you or feels unfair. The goal isn't to stop feeling angry; it's to understand the signal and choose what you do with it.
Does my partner need to attend?
No. These are individual sessions. Many partners notice the difference anyway, because how you handle conflict changes.
How long before things change?
Many people start using practical skills within the first few sessions. Changing deeper patterns takes longer, and we'll review progress together as we go.
Are sessions online or in Bangalore?
Both: in person in Bangalore and online across India. Fees, including a student sliding scale, are on the booking page. See current fees →
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Note: If anyone is at risk of being hurt, safety comes first: contact emergency services on 112. For emotional support, Tele-MANAS is free and 24/7 on 14416. Counselling is not a substitute for crisis support.

Start responding instead of reacting

Book an individual session online or in Bangalore. If you'd like to ask something first, send me a message.

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